It is unfortunate that children take no interest in the findings of surveys and scientific research, especially the kind that tells us how important it is for children to get sufficient amounts of sleep. Were these documents to interest them, it would surely be much simpler to get the children into their beds and sleeping at bed time. Of course this will never be the case, and no matter how well you decorate and furnish their bedrooms, there will be many, if not most, nights on which they will resist sleep with all that they are. The article below should have your children sleeping before you've finished tucking them in...
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Getting Your Child To Sleep: The Power Of The Sleep Fairy
By: Laura Doerflinger
Do your children awaken you multiple times in the night? Do you lie with your children in bed until they finally fall asleep? Does your child slip into your bed in the middle of the night? Have your children's sleeping habits driven you to the point of madness? Have no fear! The Sleep Fairy is here!
One night after struggling to put my two and four-year-old to bed, I dragged myself sleepily down the hallway for a moment to be with my husband who was watching the History Channel. I fell to the couch exhausted but waiting for my children to call me from their bedrooms anticipating the up and down of our nightly routine.
As I waited, I focused on the war story in front of me. It was about the prisoners- of-war in Hanoi during the Vietnam War. Some of the pilots who were shot down over North Vietnam were imprisoned for up to seven years. As they spoke of sleep deprivation, I found myself relating to their symptoms. They felt detached and confused, forgetful and out-of-touch much like I did after four years of sleepless nights. I felt breathless as I realized the prisoner-like state I was in as a parent.
One day, as I made my children’s beds, I came up with a magical idea that blended good psychology (reward systems) and parenting (loving encouragement). That night I sat my children down on the couch in the living room and said, "I've just received notice that the Sleep Fairy is coming our way." My 4-year-old daughter said, "Sleep Fairy? Who's that mommy?" I said, "The Sleep Fairy helps little kids sleep all through the night. And when the little kids sleep through the night, they receive a little treat under their pillows."
Both of my children beamed at the idea that they might wake up to a surprise! I tucked them into bed, read a story, and kissed them goodnight and then said, "Now, you cannot call for me after I say goodnight." That's when my son understood he couldn't play the up and down game anymore. "But mommy," he said. "What if I need you?" To that I replied, "Unless you have hurt yourself, you don't need me. It's time for sleep. But,” I added to be fair "you can tell me you love me anytime."
My children slept through that night. They woke up to a toy car, colored pencils or a small candy and were excited for another opportunity for the Sleep Fairy to visit. Some mornings they didn't make it through the night and the Sleep Fairy did not come. They were disappointed but knew that they had another chance the following night to have a good night’s sleep.
You can employ the Sleep Fairy in your home by following these steps:
1. Introduce the Sleep Fairy by saying something like, “Did you know that there is a fairy who helps little children get to sleep and stay asleep. All we need to do is say out loud at bedtime, ‘Sleep Fairy we need help sleeping!’ Then you explain that the fairy will bring a gift or treat and hide it under their pillow when they’ve accomplished their goal.
2. Be reasonable by requesting specific, reachable goals that your children can achieve. If your child wakes up 10 times a night, then the Sleep Fairy should come is he only wakes 3 times. This goal would change over time.
3. Give clear instruction. Tell your child exactly what she has to do to earn her prize. "When I say goodnight, you must remain quiet." Or, “You can only wake me up two times during the night.”
4. Reward every night. For the first 30 days, reward nightly to change your child’s pattern.
5. Change to an intermittent or random pattern after 30 days. Once you see consistent sleep patterns, tell your children the Sleep Fairy must help other children who have sleep problems. The Sleep Fairy will still visit once in awhile (randomly). Or if your child is more into a schedule then tell him the Sleep Fairy will visit every Wednesday (intermittently).
6. Have your child write a thank you note to the Sleep Fairy.
7. Invite the Sleep Fairy back when needed. Children go through stages. Some stages bring back old sleep habits and before you know it you're sleepless again. Take this opportunity to call the Sleep Fairy back. Follow the same pattern for saying goodbye.
My children call the Sleep Fairy back ever so often now that they are 6 and 9. My son Dylan usually says, "Mommy, I miss the Sleep Fairy. Can she come to visit?" And, guess what? She always does!
By: Laura Doerflinger, MS, LMHC
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Laura Doerflinger, MS, LMHC, is the Executive Director of FamilyAuthority.com and also the author of downloadable parenting audio books in MP3 format.
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Let the 'Sleep Fairy' do her work, and enjoy more peaceful nights while your children rest on the furniture you so carefully picked out for them. Hopefully, by the time they start asking questions about the existence of the 'Sleep Fairy' they will be old enough not to be resisting sleep, or at least not calling on you when they can't get to sleep!
